Saturday, March 9, 2019

Baby and Me #3

This is the dating ultrasounds they took ar around 12 weeks, the boys thought it looked like it had a mermaid tail and were pretty excited about that!

We are so excited to be adding another baby to our family this July! I have documented a lot about my other pregnancies on here so even though this blog is quite neglected, I want to write about it, so we can look back and tell this child we hadn't quite given up yet!

We found out a few weeks ago IT IS A GIRL,  and I am still in shock about it! I kept telling myself it was a boy and was so sure it was another boy so I was SO surprised when the tech told us we were having a girl! I kept asking her if she was sure and HOW sure? I still have a hard time referring to the baby as a "her" or "she" it just seems unreal. Let's just say there are some theories and "methods" we may or may not have employed to try and get a girl and I'm here to tell you that this sorcery seemed to have worked this time ;)

We found out we were pregnant just before Thanksgiving, I had a feeling from a few symptoms and was so excited/nervous to take the test. I told Ben when he was home for a lunch hour by showing him a picture of the positive pregnancy test, the poor third baby already getting the uncreative dad-tell, no play dough sculptures this time.

We decided it would be fun to wait until Christmas to tell our families and it was very hard to keep it a secret. My parents were visiting for Thanksgiving and I had to be careful about excuses about not wanting to go in the hot tub or not taking the ibuprofen my mom kept insisting on for my headaches.

The nausea and throwing up started at 6 weeks to the day.  It has been a hard first (and second so far) trimester.  It was really hard to stay positive for the first little bit. Every day was horrible and I just tried to get through it. I was feeling so sick constantly, everything sounded gross and eating became a chore. I was throwing up at least 3 times a day in the beginning and could barely get off the couch. Ben and I decided to tell Everett about the baby when I was about 8 weeks because I was feeling so guilty and he was getting worried about me and so we told him why I was sick all the time. It was a big risk but he kept the secret amazingly and was really sweet and understanding of his useless mom. I am now 20 weeks and can manage the sickness a little better. I usually feel good in the mornings and the nausea kicks in after lunch and it is the worst at night. If I eat small bland meals often it is better. I absolutely have learned the hard way no mexican, asian or indian food or strong flavors of any kind and I can't eat until I'm full either. I think it is getting a little better though?? With Everett, I was sick my entire pregnancy and that is what I am afraid of this time, so "surviving not thriving" is where we are at right now.  I do think I am starting to feel better though! After we put the kids to bed, I get in bed with my heated blanket around 8 o'clock and I don't leave. I live there now. Ben has lovingly given me the nickname "Willy Wonka" referring to the 4 grandparents who never leave the bed for 20 years. I haven't had a ton of cravings except cereal and toast are pretty consistent with what I can eat without feeling too sick. I actually have no desire for sweets which is opposite of my life in general and I actually have craved Taco Bell's cheesy gordita crunch's, which I throw up almost immediately.

I haven't worked out since Thanksgiving when I started feeling sick. It is pretty discouraging because I was feeling so great and in the best shape of my life before I got pregnant and now it feels like all that muscle I worked so hard for has disintegrated into mush. Walking up the stairs is hard, not to mention the thought of most healthy food is unthinkable for me.  I am trying to be gentle with myself and remind myself that there are seasons of life and I will be able to get there again when I am not in a constant flu-like state.

We told my family on Christmas morning. My brother was a little onto me because he was up late when I was throwing up in the bathroom. We wrapped up a jar of Prego pasta sauce and saved it for the last present. My mom opened it and was so confused! She was saying things like "ya I like this brand" and "oh were we out of pasta sauce?" Then we told her to look under the tissue paper and there was an ultrasound picture. Then everybody got it and Everett was bouncing off the walls finally able to tell everyone. We told the rest of the family when we got back to Utah and it was exciting to finally be able to get excited with everyone, not to mention I could stop pretending to not be sick all the time!

Other symptoms include crazy dreams, the worst headaches that I never had with my other pregnancies, insomnia, and pretty discouraging anxiety.  This last week I have felt the tiniest of movements. It is by far my favorite part of being pregnant so I am excited for that to be more regular and noticeable. 

Some other things I want to remember

  • Pretty much any strong scent makes me instantly sick. At Christmas when everyone was burning candles, I would secretly blow them out when no one was looking, even at peoples houses I didn't really know.
  • Ben made the mistake of putting on cologne before a date night one evening, and it was freezing and snowing outside but I had to drive with the window down the whole way to the restaurant. 
  • The day we found out the gender, I was sweating and had butterflies all day, I was shaking as we pulled into the appointment. I cried my eyes out when Ben and I got back into the car after finding out it was a girl. Happy tears!
  • We told the boys at Disneyland, we gave them a gift bag and if it was a stuffed little Minnie that meant it was a girl, and if it was a Mickey, that meant it was a boy! They were so happy and it was such a happy moment. Patrick is so sure the baby is named Minnie now. 
  • For as long as I can remember I thought I knew what I would name a girl if we had one, but now I don't like any of the names on my girl list! I keep finding more boy names I like! 
  • Ben has been great and stepped up so much. He cooks all the meat when I can't look at it, does all the dishes, will swoop up the boys and take them out when I can't move and rubs my neck and back when I have headaches every day. 

With Everett I did belly shots and sizes with fruits and vegetables, with Patrick it was junk food and this baby has been deemed toys! Next week it will be the size of a magic 8 ball! I know the belly shots in the beginning are pretty laughable, but it's fun to compare I guess!

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